How do I get him to call me?

The Art of the Subtle Spark: How to Encourage Him to Pick Up the Phone

So, you’ve met someone, and there’s a definite spark. You’ve enjoyed your interactions, and now you’re hoping that spark ignites into something more. But how do you subtly nudge him towards the next step, specifically, him making that call? The key is planting the seed of desire, not watering it obsessively. It’s about creating a positive association with you and making him feel like calling is a natural and desirable action.

Forget grand gestures or overly assertive strategies. Instead, focus on creating a connection that leaves him wanting more. Here’s how you can subtly encourage him to pick up the phone:

1. Master the Art of the High Note Exit:

This is crucial. The end of your conversation is just as important, if not more so, than the middle. You want to leave him feeling uplifted and wanting to continue the chat. Don’t let the conversation fizzle out. Instead, end it on a genuine high point.

For example, instead of saying “Okay, gotta go,” try something like:

• “This was so much fun talking to you, I really enjoyed hearing about [topic you discussed].”
• “Wow, time really flew by! I learned so much. I’m actually late for something now, but I’d love to continue this conversation sometime.”
• “I’m actually heading out, but this was a great chat! It really brightened my day.”

The key is to be sincere, positive, and slightly regretful that the conversation is ending.

2. The Gentle Suggestion: Plant the Calling Seed:

This is where you subtly hint at the possibility of a phone call. Don’t be pushy; just casually mention it.

• “We should definitely talk more about [topic]. It’s probably easier to explain over the phone.”
• “If you ever want to chat more about [shared interest], feel free to give me a call.”
• After making a joke, you could laugh and say, “I’m actually much funnier over the phone, you should hear me then!” (said playfully, of course).

These are just suggestions; tailor them to your specific conversation and personality. The idea is to make him consider the phone call as a potential next step without feeling pressured.

3. Offer the Invitation: The Crucial Number Exchange:

This might seem obvious, but it’s important to handle it gracefully. If he doesn’t already have your number, don’t wait for him to ask. Take the initiative, but in a non-demanding way.

• “Hey, here’s my number. Feel free to give me a call sometime.” (Deliver this with a smile and confident demeanor).
• If the conversation led to a specific topic that requires more detailed discussion, you could say, “I actually have some great resources on that on my phone. Here, let me give you my number, and I can send them over.”
• If you already know he has your number, you could playfully say, “Make sure you save my number, you never know when you might need me!” (Again, keep it light and fun).

The Golden Rule: Patience and Confidence

Ultimately, the success of these strategies hinges on your own confidence and patience. Don’t become obsessed with whether or not he calls. Focus on being your authentic self and enjoying the interactions you have. If he’s genuinely interested, these subtle cues will resonate. If he doesn’t call, don’t take it personally. It simply means he’s not the right person for you, and you’ve saved yourself valuable time and energy.

Remember, sparking someone’s interest is an art, not a science. It’s about creating a positive and engaging experience that leaves them wanting more. By focusing on genuine connection and subtle encouragement, you’ll increase the likelihood of him reaching for the phone and taking the next step. And if he doesn’t? Well, there are plenty of other fish in the sea!